Character

We call the toughest days we face “character building.” Those times when we are tested could be emotional or physical, ethical or intellectual, professional or personal. The choices we make in these moments say a lot about our character. Character primarily refers to the assembly of qualities that distinguish one individual from another. “Be honest, … Read more

A Communication Parable

Once upon a time, a young, accomplished and enthusiastic worker named SHE got her first job. SHE – being an ambitious, solid and diligent worker – was noticed by those at the top of her organization. Not surprisingly, those at the top quickly promoted SHE to the position of team leader. SHE’s world changed. The … Read more

The Speed of Trust

“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it.” —Warren Buffett, American business magnate, investor and philanthropist Earlier this year, I spent two days participating in “The Speed of Trust” and “Leading the Speed of Trust” webinars. I am grateful to have been accepted as a participant of this pilot … Read more

Everyone Needs a Tap Code

Epictetus, one of Rome’s greatest philosophers 2,000 years ago, told his students, “It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you react to it that matters.” Epictetus, born a slave and likely crippled due to beatings at the hands of a slave master, knew the wisdom of his words. He had lived them, overcoming challenging … Read more

Harnessing the Power of Failure, Trauma & Adversity

“We’ve all heard the usual examples: Michael Jordan cut from his high school basketball team, Walt Disney fired by a newspaper editor for not being creative enough, the Beatles turned away by a record executive who told them that ‘guitar groups are on their way out.’ In fact, many of their winning mantras essentially describe … Read more

Change & What Happens When a Tree Falls

“One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore.” —Andre Gide, French author Image of forest with fallen tree courtesy of dan at FreeDigitalPhotos.net. I heard a very fine and wise speaker at a grief retreat weekend a few weeks back. His subject was “What happens when a tree dies?” The … Read more

Trust Your Gut

“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” —Oprah Winfrey Yes, you heard us right! It’s a scientifically proven, practical and very smart strategy to heed the old saying, “Trust your gut!” Your survival could depend on it, and your performance can as well. Here’s how “trusting your gut” works. It all starts with … Read more

Perfectionism’s Dark Side part 2: From Perfection to Excellence

Martha Stewart, Steve Jobs and some other famous people have reputations as perfectionists. But are those reputations justified? Are those famous figures truly perfectionists, or are they, perhaps, those seeking excellence in disguise? And even if our famous figures’ reputations are deserved, and true perfectionism is what plagues or plagued them, what are the costs … Read more

Perfectionism’s Dark Side: A Big Barrier to Success

  “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis. Healthy striving is self-focused: ‘How can I improve?’ Perfectionism is other-focused: ‘What will they think?’” … Read more